Could things actually be looking up for me in the romance department?
I wondered this last week, not without some skepticism.
When it comes to certain areas of my life, especially dating, things can end as quickly as they begin.
Ad man, the newly divorced-man-who-works-in-advertising asked me out again the week following our first date.
My instincts were screaming that something wasn’t 100% right. ” said my advice-counselling friend Madge, as we finished a class at Soul Cycle. If it’s anything similar to my feelings post-divorce, it will be hard for him to embrace someone new – in every way.” I remembered back to the early days of singledom, throwing myself into some not so great dating situations, often finding myself thinking that seeing anyone at all was a mistake.
By confronting him with a hostile text (yes, to him it sounds hostile) you’re giving him the impression that you are: · high maintenance · demanding · clingy · needy · hard to please And most importantly, it makes him feel like he's in trouble before he's actually had a chance to get to know you. I’m a funny guy, fairly wise, very goal oriented, and I’m very social.
You might have a great singing voice, you might have legs that go on for miles, you might give the best massages, and you might make the best brownies the world has ever seen. But the bottom line is, I’m just not very good with “relationships” or dating in general.
I’m a bit scattered, and I’m just not sure I can see you right now.” I teared up, upset, but appreciative at the same time.
Not wanting to hate him, my feelings were a mixture of sadness, rejection and confusion.